Comments on: Why Isn’t Enough Ever Enough? http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/ a tongue-in-cheek quest for understanding... Thu, 28 Aug 2008 02:28:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Jenny http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-703 Jenny Sat, 08 Sep 2007 18:34:30 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-703 Thanks Vernon! Thanks Vernon!

]]> By: Vernon - CharmTips http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-701 Vernon - CharmTips Sat, 08 Sep 2007 17:28:27 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-701 Jenny, this is a great article! Take care... Jenny,

this is a great article! Take care…

]]> By: Jenny http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-673 Jenny Thu, 06 Sep 2007 13:46:23 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-673 James, Thank you so much for the stumble! :) I clicked on your post this morning and started reading but realized that I have to head out the door and want to give it the time it deserves as it is very well thought out. I'll give it a read this evening and let you know what I think. I imagine it will be helpful though as I'm prone to seeing big picture and have a difficult time breaking goals into smaller pieces as they don't feel powerful enough. James,
Thank you so much for the stumble! :)

I clicked on your post this morning and started reading but realized that I have to head out the door and want to give it the time it deserves as it is very well thought out. I’ll give it a read this evening and let you know what I think. I imagine it will be helpful though as I’m prone to seeing big picture and have a difficult time breaking goals into smaller pieces as they don’t feel powerful enough.

]]> By: James - Visualized.Feel.Abundance http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-661 James - Visualized.Feel.Abundance Thu, 06 Sep 2007 03:03:18 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-661 Hey Jenny, What you have described is very common, in fact everyone who have ever set a goal would encounter this problem. Which is why I created The Ladder of Dream to address this issue (it was intended for myself originally). The key is to break your goal into smaller, manageable ones that accumulates into your final goal. So each step leads to somewhere and you will never be left stranded. Oh, and it is important to keep celebrating each little success and be grateful for it :) Here's my original post in June talking about The Ladder of Dreams: http://secretofunlimitedprosperity.com/58/9-secret-steps-to-life-transformation-the-ladder-of-dreams/ Cheers James PS: Gave you some stumble love to share this great question. Hey Jenny,

What you have described is very common, in fact everyone who have ever set a goal would encounter this problem. Which is why I created The Ladder of Dream to address this issue (it was intended for myself originally).

The key is to break your goal into smaller, manageable ones that accumulates into your final goal. So each step leads to somewhere and you will never be left stranded. Oh, and it is important to keep celebrating each little success and be grateful for it :)

Here’s my original post in June talking about The Ladder of Dreams:

http://secretofunlimitedprosperity.com/58/9-secret-steps-to-life-transformation-the-ladder-of-dreams/

Cheers
James

PS: Gave you some stumble love to share this great question.

]]> By: John W. McKenna http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-645 John W. McKenna Wed, 05 Sep 2007 08:52:22 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-645 Jenny and Erin You’ve been tagged for the “Does Most Leadership Suck Challenge”. Check the link for details. Take care... JWM Jenny and Erin

You’ve been tagged for the “Does Most Leadership Suck Challenge”. Check the link for details.

Take care…

JWM

]]> By: Jenny http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-644 Jenny Tue, 04 Sep 2007 19:56:07 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-644 Ah, you all have brilliant thoughts on this! :) I feel so lucky sometimes and today is one of them as I couldn't imagine kinder, more thoughtful people to talk with. Thanks!! Ah, you all have brilliant thoughts on this! :)

I feel so lucky sometimes and today is one of them as I couldn’t imagine kinder, more thoughtful people to talk with. Thanks!!

]]> By: Jason http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-643 Jason Tue, 04 Sep 2007 19:36:37 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-643 That dance analogy is excellent... I totally agree. The reason you get frustrated and give up, in most situations, is because you start focusing on what you don't have... you don't have whatever it is you're striving toward. If, instead, you focus on what you do have (ie the progress you have made already), your motivation will be strong. Focus on lack leads to feeling lack... focus on what you do have leads to being aware of what you do have. That's why I mostly set a direction to move more than a specific goal... although specific goals do have the motivational power of being measurable, thus providing feedback that you do have your progress toward it. Focus on the destination means focusing on what you don't have, focusing on the journey means focusing on what you do have. That dance analogy is excellent… I totally agree.

The reason you get frustrated and give up, in most situations, is because you start focusing on what you don’t have… you don’t have whatever it is you’re striving toward. If, instead, you focus on what you do have (ie the progress you have made already), your motivation will be strong.

Focus on lack leads to feeling lack… focus on what you do have leads to being aware of what you do have. That’s why I mostly set a direction to move more than a specific goal… although specific goals do have the motivational power of being measurable, thus providing feedback that you do have your progress toward it.

Focus on the destination means focusing on what you don’t have, focusing on the journey means focusing on what you do have.

]]> By: Dan http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-642 Dan Tue, 04 Sep 2007 17:44:19 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-642 Jenny, I prefer to think of myself being at a point, a destination, no matter where I am. The path itself is the goal, the destination. It's not a question of point A or point B or somewhere in between. Wherever I am, that's where I am. Sounds obvious and yet it's such a profound truth that everyone seems to forget. I prefer to think of life as a dance. We don't dance to end up at some arbitrarily selected spot on the dance floor, to reach some goal. We dance for the fun of dancing. That's life! Hugs! Jenny, I prefer to think of myself being at a point, a destination, no matter where I am. The path itself is the goal, the destination. It’s not a question of point A or point B or somewhere in between. Wherever I am, that’s where I am. Sounds obvious and yet it’s such a profound truth that everyone seems to forget.

I prefer to think of life as a dance. We don’t dance to end up at some arbitrarily selected spot on the dance floor, to reach some goal. We dance for the fun of dancing.

That’s life! Hugs!

]]> By: Erin's Mom http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-638 Erin's Mom Tue, 04 Sep 2007 00:47:00 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-638 Good post Jenny. The joy is in the journey and all of that good stuff. Ambiguity is difficult. Do we ever really arrive at completed personal growth? I don't think so. It is good to unhitch from the junk from the past and have a point to which we are headed. I don't know that we ever really reach "there" if we are self-examining, self-motivated people. There is always the next level of development, the next goal. I think the journey is about becoming authentic people acknowledging where we are emotionally and being okay with that while we journey along making progress towards our personal goals. The one thing we can count on is change and we need to embrace that idea in order to not be disappointed or afraid. From a Christian perspective for me it is about trusting God in the journey. Good post Jenny. The joy is in the journey and all of that good stuff. Ambiguity is difficult. Do we ever really arrive at completed personal growth? I don’t think so. It is good to unhitch from the junk from the past and have a point to which we are headed. I don’t know that we ever really reach “there” if we are self-examining, self-motivated people. There is always the next level of development, the next goal. I think the journey is about becoming authentic people acknowledging where we are emotionally and being okay with that while we journey along making progress towards our personal goals. The one thing we can count on is change and we need to embrace that idea in order to not be disappointed or afraid. From a Christian perspective for me it is about trusting God in the journey.

]]> By: Mark http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-636 Mark Tue, 04 Sep 2007 00:04:05 +0000 http://jenny-and-erin.com/2007/09/why-isn%e2%80%99t-enough-ever-enough/#comment-636 I think it is a good thing. Mainly because of the idea that <a href="http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/07/if-you-want-to-learn-embrace-uncertainty/">uncertainty enables growth</a>. In a clear case of the grass being greener, I'm a little jealous of those who do experience such significant change. It provides a clear marker of growth, whereas I find it very difficult to pin-point any moments or times of personal change. And it's often said that tracking your progress is a great motivational tool. Acknowledging your successes, which in this case are the movements towards your goal. Though I have experienced similar feelings, most clearly when I take up a new physical activity. In the beginning I'm excited, finding it challenging but enjoyable, and seeing myself steadily improve. Yet at some point I can acknowledge significant development of new skills, but I can also see that there is so much more to learn. Unfortunately by then the initial excitement is gone, and with it the motivation to continue. I'm yet to overcome that. I think it is a good thing. Mainly because of the idea that uncertainty enables growth.

In a clear case of the grass being greener, I’m a little jealous of those who do experience such significant change. It provides a clear marker of growth, whereas I find it very difficult to pin-point any moments or times of personal change. And it’s often said that tracking your progress is a great motivational tool. Acknowledging your successes, which in this case are the movements towards your goal.

Though I have experienced similar feelings, most clearly when I take up a new physical activity. In the beginning I’m excited, finding it challenging but enjoyable, and seeing myself steadily improve. Yet at some point I can acknowledge significant development of new skills, but I can also see that there is so much more to learn. Unfortunately by then the initial excitement is gone, and with it the motivation to continue. I’m yet to overcome that.

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